Why is it good to be alone
The sun rises and the sun sets.
You can always make more money, but you will never get back the time you wasted.
Have you noticed that there is a tidal wave to everything in life? The sun rises and the sun sets. The tide comes cut off. If you're not currently in a relationship, it just means the sun has temporarily set; The tide is currently out. Certain that the sun will rise again and the tide will return again, you will eventually be in another relationship. What you do now and then can determine his type and whether he wants to be with "the one".
Unfortunately, today's society often assumes that being alone equals loneliness. Nothing could be further from the truth. I spend a lot of time alone, but I rarely feel lonely. I am very protective of my time and weigh the pros and cons of everything I do. You can always make more money, but you will never get back the time you wasted. The clock is ticking and no one knows how much time they have left. This is what makes life exciting.
Instead of lamenting the fact that you currently don't have that special someone in your life, why not take some time to weed your life. I bet there is a closet begging to be organized. There may be things you don't need or use that can be sold or given away. Junk slowly builds up in your life and before you know it, you feel exhausted. You may have heard that in order to bring new energy into your life (partner, etc.), you need to get rid of old energy. You definitely won't have time for that when you meet him or her, because you'll be so in love that you probably won't want to do much other than be with or think about your new honey.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that everyone in a relationship is happy. We have a saying in my native Italy, "Maglio solo Che mal escort." It means: "It is better to be alone than to be in bad company." The divorce rate is over 50% and I have to assume that at least 50% of people in relationships are probably unhappy. When you're outside looking in, you think everyone is having a great time except you. Of course you know that's not true. The human mind is what it is, we represent what we don't have and we have a short term memory of all the bad times we had when we had someone in our lives. I remember one day on Valentine's Day when I was in a terrible relationship. I looked for a card for him and saw one that said, "To the man of my dreams." My dream man! He was a man of my nightmares. Every time I think about him, I regret the years I wasted with him and even though it ended over 5 years ago, I am still so thankful that he is out of my life.
Finally, remember that everyone is looking for the "right person", but few people focus on being the "right person". Use this time to be honest with yourself and figure out what you need to do or change to become an irresistible person, the kind of person everyone is looking for but hard to find. If you can't be honest with yourself, ask a close friend. Use this alone time to "be the best you can be" because before you know it, you'll be in another relationship, and if you've done your homework, you'll never be alone again!
Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, columnist and keynote speaker, author of "Lucia's Lessons in Love" and host of The Art of Love radio show. You have appeared on Dr. Phil, CBS Early Show, 60 Minutes Australia, The Tyro Banks Show, E! Entertainment, KTLA Morning Show and many radio programs throughout the US and Canada
CONCLUSION
Finally, remember that everyone is looking for the right person but few people focus on being the right person. Use this time to be honest with yourself and figure out what you need to do or change to become an irresistible person, the kind of person everyone is looking for but hard to find. Use this alone time to be the best you can be because before you know it, you'll be in another relationship, and if you've done your homework, you'll never be alone again!
