How I DON'T WANT TO BE SINGLE ANY MORE

I Don't Want to Be Single Any More

There are certain times of the year when being single can be especially difficult. Long bank holiday weekends, Valentine's Day, family holidays and major social events can often seem like cosy couple or family events, and being single can feel particularly lonely and unloved during those times.

The days and weeks following Christmas and the holidays are two of the busiest times of the year for divorce attorneys to compound or reduce the loneliness and feeling that we are missing out on something special. Sometimes we can sigh and realize that we really don't want to be alone anymore.

- Many people who do not want to be single choose to join online dating sites and this can be an effective way of finding someone with similar tastes and interests who meets our criteria. These sites often offer good practical advice when creating your introduction. For example, be careful how much personal information you disclose and limit the first meeting to an hour so that no one feels trapped indefinitely. If you turn it off, your next date can last as long as you want.

- stay safe. If something feels wrong, trust your gut and arrange a first meeting in a public place. A lot of people use these sites with success, but it's still a good idea to tell your friend where you're going and to call back an hour later to make sure you're okay.

- If a friend, colleague or someone in your circle offers to introduce you to someone they know, accept it. That person might be perfect for you so why not agree to meet them. Even if nothing comes of it, you met someone new and did something different. Being able to socialize and talk to new people is an important skill that can be lost quickly if we're out of practice and don't date for a while.

- Manage your expectations. It can be exciting when fireworks go off when we first meet someone, but don't invest all of your hopes and dreams into a new relationship right from the start. Coffee, lunch, or a pleasant hour or two out for a walk can be a great way to initially meet someone and make you a special new friend, even if they aren't lovers.

- invite. Stay up to date on what's happening locally and join the mailing list. You can then organize tours of shows, exhibitions and events. Join in when others do too and invite you to join them. Socialize regularly so you can add to your network of contacts while having a good social life and staying in touch with what's happening around you.

- Do what you love. Volunteering, joining a class, hanging out with a group or leading an activity you enjoy keeps you busy as well as enables you to meet and meet people who share your interests. Enjoy meeting, sharing activities, becoming friends and slowly you can develop a loving relationship with someone you already have a fun relationship with.

Don't work too hard. Relax and be yourself. And remember that being single isn't the end of the world! Many people in unhappy relationships undoubtedly envy your independence and ability to do whatever you want whenever you want.

Appreciate every phase of life and enjoy the opportunities that come your way. Single or partnership, each position has its pros and cons. Being comfortable with yourself and your life takes the pressure off of finding a new partner and often leads to a new relationship when you least expect it.

CONCLUSION

Join in when others do too and invite you to join them. Socialize regularly so you can add to your network of contacts while having a good social life and staying in touch with what's happening around you. - Do what you love. And remember that being single isn't the end of the world! Many people in unhappy relationships undoubtedly envy your independence and ability to do whatever you want whenever you want. Appreciate every phase of life and enjoy the opportunities that come your way.

The Biggest Lie In WHY IS IT GOOD TO BE ALONE

Why is it good to be alone

The sun rises and the sun sets.

You can always make more money, but you will never get back the time you wasted.

Have you noticed that there is a tidal wave to everything in life? The sun rises and the sun sets. The tide comes cut off. If you're not currently in a relationship, it just means the sun has temporarily set; The tide is currently out. Certain that the sun will rise again and the tide will return again, you will eventually be in another relationship. What you do now and then can determine his type and whether he wants to be with "the one".

Unfortunately, today's society often assumes that being alone equals loneliness. Nothing could be further from the truth. I spend a lot of time alone, but I rarely feel lonely. I am very protective of my time and weigh the pros and cons of everything I do. You can always make more money, but you will never get back the time you wasted. The clock is ticking and no one knows how much time they have left. This is what makes life exciting.

Instead of lamenting the fact that you currently don't have that special someone in your life, why not take some time to weed your life. I bet there is a closet begging to be organized. There may be things you don't need or use that can be sold or given away. Junk slowly builds up in your life and before you know it, you feel exhausted. You may have heard that in order to bring new energy into your life (partner, etc.), you need to get rid of old energy. You definitely won't have time for that when you meet him or her, because you'll be so in love that you probably won't want to do much other than be with or think about your new honey.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that everyone in a relationship is happy. We have a saying in my native Italy, "Maglio solo Che mal escort." It means: "It is better to be alone than to be in bad company." The divorce rate is over 50% and I have to assume that at least 50% of people in relationships are probably unhappy. When you're outside looking in, you think everyone is having a great time except you. Of course you know that's not true. The human mind is what it is, we represent what we don't have and we have a short term memory of all the bad times we had when we had someone in our lives. I remember one day on Valentine's Day when I was in a terrible relationship. I looked for a card for him and saw one that said, "To the man of my dreams." My dream man! He was a man of my nightmares. Every time I think about him, I regret the years I wasted with him and even though it ended over 5 years ago, I am still so thankful that he is out of my life.

Finally, remember that everyone is looking for the "right person", but few people focus on being the "right person". Use this time to be honest with yourself and figure out what you need to do or change to become an irresistible person, the kind of person everyone is looking for but hard to find. If you can't be honest with yourself, ask a close friend. Use this alone time to "be the best you can be" because before you know it, you'll be in another relationship, and if you've done your homework, you'll never be alone again!

Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, columnist and keynote speaker, author of "Lucia's Lessons in Love" and host of The Art of Love radio show. You have appeared on Dr. Phil, CBS Early Show, 60 Minutes Australia, The Tyro Banks Show, E! Entertainment, KTLA Morning Show and many radio programs throughout the US and Canada

CONCLUSION

Finally, remember that everyone is looking for the right person but few people focus on being the right person. Use this time to be honest with yourself and figure out what you need to do or change to become an irresistible person, the kind of person everyone is looking for but hard to find. Use this alone time to be the best you can be because before you know it, you'll be in another relationship, and if you've done your homework, you'll never be alone again!